TO WIN HIM WITH STYLE BY V

I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship. Louisa May Alcott

This note is mostly related to women’s audience, but I guess men won’t miss an opportunity to get closer to women’s reality…

A power of every woman lies in her ability to surrender and lose a bet. It makes her a winner in a uniquely feminine way without offending man’s ego and pride. She is able to remove mountains without pushing them. A woman is the only lovely and graceful creature who has an exceptional ability to win by defeating and defeat by winning.  

A Canadian feminist and 1951-1956 mayor of Ottawa, Charlotte Whitton, once said: “Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good.” Occasionally, women choose wrong directions preferring to be ambitious and independent in their efforts to bring success, beauty and courtesy to men. A wise woman is not afraid of any fighting or battle, for she knows when to surrender in order to succeed and gain a victory. She has a clear, but I’d rather say it is still blurred, understanding of a male dominant world: he remains a hunter and conqueror of a woman’s destiny. 

When it comes to love affair, their relationship looks like an impressive dance contest, where he moves her around the ballroom, and she follows him gracefully, elegantly and seductively while moving her own challenging directions…

BAD BOY, GOOD GIRL, GOOD BOY, BAD GIRL

She: “For some unknown reason, bad-boys draw you in despite the fact they are jerks”. Alexis Bledel

He: "Women are like cell phones. They like to be held and talked to, but push the wrong button, and you'll be disconnected." Unknown

Even being grown up, we keep looking for hide-and-seek or cat-and-mouse games that warm up our mind and body. I always wondered why good girls go mad about bad boys and good boys attract bad girls. Is it a perfect match or something we need to reveal inside? Probably it’s something that one partner misses and wants to meet a lack of it with the help of another one to create a hot mix. Maybe sometimes we want someone to push that wrong button to be out of a system, experiencing true and real life. 

Well, I guess we can list tons of explanations, but I know for sure, that we become drawn toward intense and dramatic relations with a lot of obstacles and limitations on the way. We do not prefer those which are to be taken easily. If relations appear to be forbidden, it agitates mind even more and more, making you stubborn about seducing a man/woman you are interested in and getting him/her to fall for you. You prefer to seduce and be seduced whatever. We usually adore projecting situations and creating dangerous games for our mind. It makes us move forward in attempt to win a set, thereby testing inner power, logic, flexibility. 

American poet Maya Angelou once said: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”.  

Maybe we need someone, who dares to push a disconnecting button and inflame passion, savoring every moment despite the fact if it’s bad or good…  

PARALLEL SOARING OF TWO WORLDS WITH ONE FINAL DESTINATION

A forest bird never wants a cage. Henrik Ibsen

Watching free soaring of an eagle in the sky I caught myself at thought: what would I never trade in my life? And I figured out it without any hesitation. It’s FREEDOM. Humanity and nature are inseparable living in different worlds, but making it a single whole. Being human beings, living in the 21st century we still remain wild cats, those free-loving creatures from forest who will never accept confinement. It’s similar to losing yourself, but if you lose yourself, you will lose your whole life. We still turn on to wildlife, free soaring, free fall and free energy and reject cage and suppression. Each of us needs space, mental and physical rest, his own seashell that is never to be encroached by anybody.

What happens in relations between a man and a woman? Normally someone puts a dog collar on another partner and ties it so hard that the second one gets breathless in attempt to break it away. Both partners need to have space and respect for the freedom of both to keep and save passion and love throughout their life. A phone call with my mom and at the same time my best and close friend made me seriously think over my ideal relations. Strange how easily you change your priorities once you face some attempts to imprison you. But I’m sure it’s not about changing your priorities; it’s about better comprehending of who you are and your higher values. These are the values that make you as you are; they are like your registered trademark. It’s something you can’t breathe without, same as a fish needs water to survive, experiencing it and living the full life. When you grow up you start value this feeling more and more and consider it to be a priceless gift, if you really have a chance to experience this ocean of emotions with its rich underwater world. This feeling was given to you with the birth and I’m very sorry for those who live in a room with limited space and no windows.

Being here in California I learned to watch animals and birds, which live next door to people, but no one is allowed to interfere with the life of their neighbors. They live together supplementing each other and making the world harmonious and complete, but still they are two different worlds and exist simultaneously. Men and women are completely different creatures, but together they make this world of full value, leaving space for own creativity and mind sculpting to give more and more awesome and amazing moments, tenderness, attention and honor to each other.

PASSIONATE MADNESS OR MARVELLOUS SAILING TO OPEN WATER THROUGH STYLE BY V.

Be still when you have nothing to say; when genuine passion moves you, say what you've got to say, and say it hot.
D.H. Lawrence

Driving from Disneyland fairytale to San Fran, watching gorgeous, majestic and powerful mountains and listening to Madonna’s ‘Forbidden Love’ I plunged into thought. These words turned me back into the most secret and innermost parts of my soul.

There was a boy and there was a girl… they were supposed to be together… This is the sweet beginning of all our relations. I heard so many times from my friends not to swim in the pool with my head under the water because chlorine will damage you hair and so on. But again and again I dived into forbidden relations feeling its soft, mild and velvet touch with all tiny parts of my body notwithstanding the restrictions and prohibitions imposed by society. I know it will soon be time for going out of the pool and wash my head from the chlorine exposure that happens between two people at the moment when they live in the world of colors. We all know this, but we behave like kids making infantile things when mom says ‘Don’t touch this’ and it attracts us more and more like the ripe fruit on the top of the tree.

This marvelous ocean flow takes you to the open water so fast that you can’t trace and think over the things happening to you. And finally you understand you are here, in open water, a place where you can sunburn and get lost in the depth of the ocean being chained by the forbidden love and having no idea about the key location… At this very moment you begin to understand it’s time to look for land to rest for a while. There is no one to rescue you and you are the dearest hope for yourself.

It’s like climbing the mountains to see the amazing and fantastic view notwithstanding the bottomless and yawning abyss underneath. Once you see it, you will never stop looking for this. This view and these marvelous relations make you move forward, looking for the endless plateau with perfect views that will never stop to amaze you with their beauty.

So much love, so much passion, so much pain… but everything needs its own experience. Those were the words of my friend and I will never forget them. You can lose everything in your life, but you will never lose your experience and those pleasant and emotional memories. It’s your valuable assets that will never fall down in price!

TO ENSNARE LOVE THROUGH STYLE BY V

If you love something, set it free; if it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was.
Richard Bach

Have you ever tried to ensnare love? I know you get mixed feelings about this question…But I did it and do you know what happened? The object of my admiration was slipping out of my hands like a fish when you have just pulled it out of the water, but it’s so slick that you can’t hold it. You will never catch the love by running after it. Being grown up, professional, serious and playing adult life, we still remain those sensitive kids who need that parental support, understanding and care. We need that someone special from our childhood fairytale.

But when it comes to love it is a complete mystery with no advice how to act or explanations of things happening. It is not a stylish tote or ultramodern shoes that you can buy once you see it at the shop window and can’t wait to own it. Being attractive, super sexy and selective, smart and wise enough you can’t understand what is wrong with you… You may look hot, stylish and fashionable, be intelligent, kind, helpful and do everything to please a person you die for, but it won’t work, because it’s not about you, trust me. Have you ever thought that the fish you are hopelessly trying to hold is not yours in fact and it slips out of your hands to another fisherman? Or maybe it’s not the time and it will come back to you once both of you are ready for the meeting… And the only thing you can do is to do nothing, just be yourself and enjoy your most beautiful and unbelievable life. And your fish or perhaps even a tastier one will reach your shore to ensnare you when you absolutely don’t expect anyone for dinner! Maybe being natural and cheerful is the right recipe for catching love…

It’s funny but this article took me less time to write than the previous ones. And it’s obvious, because the most extraordinary things are the simplest and it’s our mind that makes them complicated.

STYLE IS THE PEOPLE YOU DATE AND THE WAY YOU DO IT

Be polite to all, but intimate with few.
Thomas Jefferson

No doubts my next article is to be titled ‘Style Is The People You Date And The Way You Do It’. And of course there is an explanation for this, but I would like to skip these details and go straight to the items to be discussed.

It’s not new for us that our partners and spouses are the exact reflection of ourselves. The character traits we like or dislike about them are the ones that irritate and annoy us and we would prefer to make these changes in ourselves, but pretty often we try to do it through changes in our partners and it causes discord. Our relations are a huge mirror where we can see our own reflection, our own character traits with its positive and negative sides. Many readers may argue with me and say they are attracted by opposite interests…But they only seem to be different and only at first sight…In fact they do look alike! Of course we prefer some definite type of women | men that is surely the echo of our inner being. But I also happened to meet people who do not have any type; they just date absolutely opposite people. And I was always interested in the following questions: why does it happen? How can it be explained? I wondered why people change their partners like cute panties with rose ribbons or dirty socks for clean ones and how to keep the balance between politeness, intimateness and simple sexual instinct. I’m absolutely sure that a self-sustainable person knows who he is, he has his own style and own women | men type for dating without going from one extreme to another or, so to say, from one sexy body to another one. Is it a search of yourself or a method of self-affirmation? This is the ugly truth of our day-to-day life.

The quote by T. Jefferson I picked up from the thousands I found is the best one to throw the light upon the message of the article that explains the issues of style in relations. You just read one phrase and no more words needed… Two words joined by one coma are separated by huge chasm in meaning.

Well, we can keep talking and discussing these issues non-stop, but still YOUR own style is up to you…So how does it look like?