SEARCHING FOR HAPPINESS WITH Style by V

Everyone chases after happiness, not noticing that happiness is right at their heels.

Bertolt Brecht

You wish to be happy, you do everything to be happy and you think that tomorrow it will be time for happiness. Is it a state of mind or just a lifestyle to be happy when chasing shadows of the future with a loneliness and disappointment at the end? Are you ready to pay for the goods you’ve never seen, spending years and years for the reality that exists only in your mind? Isn’t it easier to be here and now enjoying lifetime on the Earth?

Most of young people keep looking for the happiness all over the world and take trips overseas in search of something what they have at home. Something, that is waiting for them to become wise enough to forget their ambitions and to be able to accept it “as is” without an attempt to modify its essence. People often mix gifts with things received for granted, thereby missing their chance they are blessed with. They need time and huge life experience to distinguish real happiness between a number of fakes.

Once my friend told me prophetic words for me, and I still keep them in my mind: “Either you were into him, and he wasn't, or he was into you but you weren't at the time.” In most cases all of us  need time, because it’s much more difficult to keep the fire in the fireplace than to make it. And if someone did happen to find what he was looking for, he should cherish those feelings keeping vital energy whatever.

I wouldn’t write this note, but I would like to share my own experience of nearly missing my happiness. I didn’t notice that it was always at my heels, even when I was wearing flats…

TO WIN HIM WITH STYLE BY V

I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship. Louisa May Alcott

This note is mostly related to women’s audience, but I guess men won’t miss an opportunity to get closer to women’s reality…

A power of every woman lies in her ability to surrender and lose a bet. It makes her a winner in a uniquely feminine way without offending man’s ego and pride. She is able to remove mountains without pushing them. A woman is the only lovely and graceful creature who has an exceptional ability to win by defeating and defeat by winning.  

A Canadian feminist and 1951-1956 mayor of Ottawa, Charlotte Whitton, once said: “Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good.” Occasionally, women choose wrong directions preferring to be ambitious and independent in their efforts to bring success, beauty and courtesy to men. A wise woman is not afraid of any fighting or battle, for she knows when to surrender in order to succeed and gain a victory. She has a clear, but I’d rather say it is still blurred, understanding of a male dominant world: he remains a hunter and conqueror of a woman’s destiny. 

When it comes to love affair, their relationship looks like an impressive dance contest, where he moves her around the ballroom, and she follows him gracefully, elegantly and seductively while moving her own challenging directions…

FLIRTING WITH THE PRESENT THROUGH STYLE BY V

 Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future. Fulton Oursler

While moving from the past to the future, we simply miss the most important point of intersection: the present. Working and running like crazy, we spend a lot of time and energy for the things that passed and for those, that haven’t come yet. These two dimensions totally absorb our nature leaving no space for the reality. Isn’t it better to enjoy the vibrant present that we can touch and feel? We never know if tomorrow will come and the past is never to be returned. So, why do we get back to these two thieves of our time and energy? Let bygones be bygones and simply enjoy the vibrant life with its awesome and unforgettable moments… Recently I came across a quote by Quevedo,  satirist and poet of Spain's Golden Age (1580-1645): “He, who spends time regretting the past, loses the present and risks the future”… I bet no one can dispute this so true saying. We move straight to the future without going its roots: the present time. We can easily change our future by restyling and giving a new makeover to our present. It’s amazing to watch how future can grow with a little inspiration in real life.

There is a group of people who keep complaining about life by doing nothing to improve it and make it of better quality. We all know that future starts with the past and the present. We are also aware that we can’t modify things in the past, but we have opportunities to shape the present in order to change the future. People can be easily divided into two groups: those who search for life drawbacks and those who seek for advantages and benefits, building their happiness and going fresh ways… 

I believe we should splash our present with lasting color of our energy and add new shades to get a winning look. Enjoying and admiring present moments is the most powerful accessory of the present life. Isn’t it amazing and fabulous to stop for a while and think how charming life is? This new approach inspires to living the most stylish, successful and fascinating life ever…

PLANNED COINCIDENCE THROUGH STYLE BY V

Chance is perhaps the pseudonym of God when he does not wish to sign his work.
Anatole France

Do you believe in coincidence? I did before I started thinking seriously about my life and things happening to me. You may disagree with me, but I truly believe there is no place for coincidence, at least in my life, and later on I will tell you my story that is a strategic plan, thoroughly created by someone unknown to me. Have you ever thought why you meet people at this or that moment or place? Why couldn’t you meet earlier or later? Otherwise things would go the other way and perhaps the wrong one… Who knows, but I can tell you for sure everything happens for better, no matter what feelings you experience at the present moment. It’s like your deposit that will turn into a great profit soon. People happen at the moment when your mind is out of ideas or reaches a deadlock walking the streets of life labyrinth. We meet people at the moment of choice and they put our life together piece by piece the same way as we match puzzles creating a clear and amazing picture. Every person, every event or accident happens for a definite reason and keeps valuable information or, so to say, life guide that directs you and helps to find the right way to inner comfort. They say people and events rarely happen at the moment of our own choosing speaking about relations between men and women. It makes me feel upset and disappointed being a person who truly believes in love and perfect match forever. Then I got to the point that people come in our life for some reason building our character, making amendments to our mind, physical and mental structure of our being. Each of us has a portrait of his / her perfect partner, but have you ever thought that you are not ready to meet him / her being “as is”? It’s not the time to face your love / destiny, because you haven’t gone through transformation to match your ideal partner. Those people on your way shape you mentally and physically, creating a gorgeous and admiring sculpture that goes through some changes day by day, year by year… You notice you can’t be satisfied with the priorities and ideals you created years ago as they don’t meet your goals anymore. People meet somewhere at the point of intersection when both partners reach the same level and are ready to take an adventure to the world of love and real, true, reliable and passionate relations. It reminds me of virtual game: How Can People Meet If They Are On Different Levels? One should wait for another one and then move on, enjoying this wonderful and fabulous life together. The only saying I repeat day after day is “Give Time Time…” You should do the things you believe, even when they fall apart, and destiny will knock your door to take a seat next to you…