STYLE IS THE PEOPLE YOU DATE AND THE WAY YOU DO IT

Be polite to all, but intimate with few.
Thomas Jefferson

No doubts my next article is to be titled ‘Style Is The People You Date And The Way You Do It’. And of course there is an explanation for this, but I would like to skip these details and go straight to the items to be discussed.

It’s not new for us that our partners and spouses are the exact reflection of ourselves. The character traits we like or dislike about them are the ones that irritate and annoy us and we would prefer to make these changes in ourselves, but pretty often we try to do it through changes in our partners and it causes discord. Our relations are a huge mirror where we can see our own reflection, our own character traits with its positive and negative sides. Many readers may argue with me and say they are attracted by opposite interests…But they only seem to be different and only at first sight…In fact they do look alike! Of course we prefer some definite type of women | men that is surely the echo of our inner being. But I also happened to meet people who do not have any type; they just date absolutely opposite people. And I was always interested in the following questions: why does it happen? How can it be explained? I wondered why people change their partners like cute panties with rose ribbons or dirty socks for clean ones and how to keep the balance between politeness, intimateness and simple sexual instinct. I’m absolutely sure that a self-sustainable person knows who he is, he has his own style and own women | men type for dating without going from one extreme to another or, so to say, from one sexy body to another one. Is it a search of yourself or a method of self-affirmation? This is the ugly truth of our day-to-day life.

The quote by T. Jefferson I picked up from the thousands I found is the best one to throw the light upon the message of the article that explains the issues of style in relations. You just read one phrase and no more words needed… Two words joined by one coma are separated by huge chasm in meaning.

Well, we can keep talking and discussing these issues non-stop, but still YOUR own style is up to you…So how does it look like?