SEARCHING FOR HAPPINESS WITH Style by V

Everyone chases after happiness, not noticing that happiness is right at their heels.

Bertolt Brecht

You wish to be happy, you do everything to be happy and you think that tomorrow it will be time for happiness. Is it a state of mind or just a lifestyle to be happy when chasing shadows of the future with a loneliness and disappointment at the end? Are you ready to pay for the goods you’ve never seen, spending years and years for the reality that exists only in your mind? Isn’t it easier to be here and now enjoying lifetime on the Earth?

Most of young people keep looking for the happiness all over the world and take trips overseas in search of something what they have at home. Something, that is waiting for them to become wise enough to forget their ambitions and to be able to accept it “as is” without an attempt to modify its essence. People often mix gifts with things received for granted, thereby missing their chance they are blessed with. They need time and huge life experience to distinguish real happiness between a number of fakes.

Once my friend told me prophetic words for me, and I still keep them in my mind: “Either you were into him, and he wasn't, or he was into you but you weren't at the time.” In most cases all of us  need time, because it’s much more difficult to keep the fire in the fireplace than to make it. And if someone did happen to find what he was looking for, he should cherish those feelings keeping vital energy whatever.

I wouldn’t write this note, but I would like to share my own experience of nearly missing my happiness. I didn’t notice that it was always at my heels, even when I was wearing flats…

SIMPLE TRUTH

When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. Unknown

The most mysterious feeling, love, has the simplest essence, but we never know when we will be trapped… In fact, people always say indirectly what they feel, but we do not notice the verbal signs or gestures being absorbed in a daily routine. 

Have you ever heard the way your name sounds when it is pronounced by someone who loves you? I’ve never thought about this until I came across the above mentioned quote. I remembered all the people who experienced or still experience warmth and tenderness to me. Maybe some of them never spoke about their feelings, but I could sense that affection and love when they were pronouncing my name. It sounds in a different and more sophisticated way that I can’t describe or put into words… Same letters, same name, but huge difference in meaning and various emotions… We can’t hide real feelings and warmth, even though we try hard, in order not to show our weakness. At least we think it is weakness, but in fact, it is a real power and exceptional ability to expose feelings in a delicate, elegant and intelligent way without showing pride and arrogance.

When it comes to sympathy, we become more sensitive and vulnerable absorbing every detail of a partner’s behavior. Sometimes we are taken aback when talking to a person we like, but it shows our sympathy to a partner. Sometimes it tells you: “Oops, you’ve been ensnared by mysterious feelings…” Love is like a wildflower, you never know where and when you will find it…

One simple quote stopped me for a while to think of people I love and to estimate what I have. My next note is for you to read and recollect the people you passed by, paying no attention to the tender sounding of somebody’s voice…  

TO WIN HIM WITH STYLE BY V

I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship. Louisa May Alcott

This note is mostly related to women’s audience, but I guess men won’t miss an opportunity to get closer to women’s reality…

A power of every woman lies in her ability to surrender and lose a bet. It makes her a winner in a uniquely feminine way without offending man’s ego and pride. She is able to remove mountains without pushing them. A woman is the only lovely and graceful creature who has an exceptional ability to win by defeating and defeat by winning.  

A Canadian feminist and 1951-1956 mayor of Ottawa, Charlotte Whitton, once said: “Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good.” Occasionally, women choose wrong directions preferring to be ambitious and independent in their efforts to bring success, beauty and courtesy to men. A wise woman is not afraid of any fighting or battle, for she knows when to surrender in order to succeed and gain a victory. She has a clear, but I’d rather say it is still blurred, understanding of a male dominant world: he remains a hunter and conqueror of a woman’s destiny. 

When it comes to love affair, their relationship looks like an impressive dance contest, where he moves her around the ballroom, and she follows him gracefully, elegantly and seductively while moving her own challenging directions…

TO ALLURE BUTTERFLIES WITH STYLE BY V.

“Success is not a doing process, it is a becoming process. What you do, what you pursue, will elude you—it can be like chasing butterflies. Success is something you attract by the person you become.” Jim Rohn

Anastasia & Steven Phelps, A Lovely Couple And My Close Friends

I feel like to change the word success into the one more mysterious and marvelous, love.  Love is something you attract by the person you become. There is no clear definition for this word that can be approved and added to the encyclopedia. This glorified feeling has no right answers or clear explanations creating haze of mystery around and casting a spell over human minds. It’s something that is out of control making you smile in panic and cry in happiness. A person in love forgets about his/her ego sacrificing own pride and prejudice for the happiness of beloved, becoming more sensitive to surroundings and things happening. 

Love is a beguiling and astonishing feeling that can serve as reviving medicine, but overdose may be fatal. That’s why you should define that right dose to keep your life vibrant, vivid and full of energy despite any attempts to hijack your prescription and take an advantage of it.

Success is something that can’t be stolen or hijacked; it is a state of mind.

Both of them are inseparable meanings that complement each other. Success without love is beyond the bounds of possibility, and love can’t settle in your heart until you have inner success and balance. Many of us seek for both of them gazing far away beyond horizons, therefore forgetting that we are blessed with a talent to generate these feelings by evolving, cultivating and cherishing them within ourselves. It turns into a process that ensnares you with love and success when you don’t have to chase butterflies, because they start following you…

BAD BOY, GOOD GIRL, GOOD BOY, BAD GIRL

She: “For some unknown reason, bad-boys draw you in despite the fact they are jerks”. Alexis Bledel

He: "Women are like cell phones. They like to be held and talked to, but push the wrong button, and you'll be disconnected." Unknown

Even being grown up, we keep looking for hide-and-seek or cat-and-mouse games that warm up our mind and body. I always wondered why good girls go mad about bad boys and good boys attract bad girls. Is it a perfect match or something we need to reveal inside? Probably it’s something that one partner misses and wants to meet a lack of it with the help of another one to create a hot mix. Maybe sometimes we want someone to push that wrong button to be out of a system, experiencing true and real life. 

Well, I guess we can list tons of explanations, but I know for sure, that we become drawn toward intense and dramatic relations with a lot of obstacles and limitations on the way. We do not prefer those which are to be taken easily. If relations appear to be forbidden, it agitates mind even more and more, making you stubborn about seducing a man/woman you are interested in and getting him/her to fall for you. You prefer to seduce and be seduced whatever. We usually adore projecting situations and creating dangerous games for our mind. It makes us move forward in attempt to win a set, thereby testing inner power, logic, flexibility. 

American poet Maya Angelou once said: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”.  

Maybe we need someone, who dares to push a disconnecting button and inflame passion, savoring every moment despite the fact if it’s bad or good…  

PLANNED COINCIDENCE THROUGH STYLE BY V

Chance is perhaps the pseudonym of God when he does not wish to sign his work.
Anatole France

Do you believe in coincidence? I did before I started thinking seriously about my life and things happening to me. You may disagree with me, but I truly believe there is no place for coincidence, at least in my life, and later on I will tell you my story that is a strategic plan, thoroughly created by someone unknown to me. Have you ever thought why you meet people at this or that moment or place? Why couldn’t you meet earlier or later? Otherwise things would go the other way and perhaps the wrong one… Who knows, but I can tell you for sure everything happens for better, no matter what feelings you experience at the present moment. It’s like your deposit that will turn into a great profit soon. People happen at the moment when your mind is out of ideas or reaches a deadlock walking the streets of life labyrinth. We meet people at the moment of choice and they put our life together piece by piece the same way as we match puzzles creating a clear and amazing picture. Every person, every event or accident happens for a definite reason and keeps valuable information or, so to say, life guide that directs you and helps to find the right way to inner comfort. They say people and events rarely happen at the moment of our own choosing speaking about relations between men and women. It makes me feel upset and disappointed being a person who truly believes in love and perfect match forever. Then I got to the point that people come in our life for some reason building our character, making amendments to our mind, physical and mental structure of our being. Each of us has a portrait of his / her perfect partner, but have you ever thought that you are not ready to meet him / her being “as is”? It’s not the time to face your love / destiny, because you haven’t gone through transformation to match your ideal partner. Those people on your way shape you mentally and physically, creating a gorgeous and admiring sculpture that goes through some changes day by day, year by year… You notice you can’t be satisfied with the priorities and ideals you created years ago as they don’t meet your goals anymore. People meet somewhere at the point of intersection when both partners reach the same level and are ready to take an adventure to the world of love and real, true, reliable and passionate relations. It reminds me of virtual game: How Can People Meet If They Are On Different Levels? One should wait for another one and then move on, enjoying this wonderful and fabulous life together. The only saying I repeat day after day is “Give Time Time…” You should do the things you believe, even when they fall apart, and destiny will knock your door to take a seat next to you…