TO ALLURE BUTTERFLIES WITH STYLE BY V.

“Success is not a doing process, it is a becoming process. What you do, what you pursue, will elude you—it can be like chasing butterflies. Success is something you attract by the person you become.” Jim Rohn

Anastasia & Steven Phelps, A Lovely Couple And My Close Friends

I feel like to change the word success into the one more mysterious and marvelous, love.  Love is something you attract by the person you become. There is no clear definition for this word that can be approved and added to the encyclopedia. This glorified feeling has no right answers or clear explanations creating haze of mystery around and casting a spell over human minds. It’s something that is out of control making you smile in panic and cry in happiness. A person in love forgets about his/her ego sacrificing own pride and prejudice for the happiness of beloved, becoming more sensitive to surroundings and things happening. 

Love is a beguiling and astonishing feeling that can serve as reviving medicine, but overdose may be fatal. That’s why you should define that right dose to keep your life vibrant, vivid and full of energy despite any attempts to hijack your prescription and take an advantage of it.

Success is something that can’t be stolen or hijacked; it is a state of mind.

Both of them are inseparable meanings that complement each other. Success without love is beyond the bounds of possibility, and love can’t settle in your heart until you have inner success and balance. Many of us seek for both of them gazing far away beyond horizons, therefore forgetting that we are blessed with a talent to generate these feelings by evolving, cultivating and cherishing them within ourselves. It turns into a process that ensnares you with love and success when you don’t have to chase butterflies, because they start following you…

BAD BOY, GOOD GIRL, GOOD BOY, BAD GIRL

She: “For some unknown reason, bad-boys draw you in despite the fact they are jerks”. Alexis Bledel

He: "Women are like cell phones. They like to be held and talked to, but push the wrong button, and you'll be disconnected." Unknown

Even being grown up, we keep looking for hide-and-seek or cat-and-mouse games that warm up our mind and body. I always wondered why good girls go mad about bad boys and good boys attract bad girls. Is it a perfect match or something we need to reveal inside? Probably it’s something that one partner misses and wants to meet a lack of it with the help of another one to create a hot mix. Maybe sometimes we want someone to push that wrong button to be out of a system, experiencing true and real life. 

Well, I guess we can list tons of explanations, but I know for sure, that we become drawn toward intense and dramatic relations with a lot of obstacles and limitations on the way. We do not prefer those which are to be taken easily. If relations appear to be forbidden, it agitates mind even more and more, making you stubborn about seducing a man/woman you are interested in and getting him/her to fall for you. You prefer to seduce and be seduced whatever. We usually adore projecting situations and creating dangerous games for our mind. It makes us move forward in attempt to win a set, thereby testing inner power, logic, flexibility. 

American poet Maya Angelou once said: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”.  

Maybe we need someone, who dares to push a disconnecting button and inflame passion, savoring every moment despite the fact if it’s bad or good…  

GLAM vs. SIMPLICITY WITH STYLE BY V.

Victoria Beckham

Only great minds can afford a simple style. Stendhal

I’m not a fashion guru to write about issues of style and fashion, but referring to the quote of great Coco Chanel: “Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only, fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening”, I guess everyone is allowed to share his/her opinion in terms of glam and couture. This item is not directly related to those I usually cover on my blog, but fashion directly deals with the state of mind. I totally agree with Stendhal, one of the most original and complex French writers of the 19th century (1783-1842), that not everyone can afford simplicity in style, even though American fashion foists it off. Being European and having absolutely different mentality from American one, I start feeling lack of European mix of couture, glam, chic and sexuality. Fashion is something that comes from inside and you have to posses all above mentioned traits to afford simple style (It may look very chic and glamorous at the same time); otherwise you need more glam to emphasize your expressiveness, passion, sensuality, individuality and sexual urge. Now fashion is a 'machine for making money', but originally it was invented for the purposes of highlighting and stressing essential nature and inner beauty of every separate person. Fashion is a part of human history and art, roots of which go deep to the middle of the 14th  century speaking about European clothing style, but the history of fashion design is normally taken from 1858, when the English-born Charles Frederick Worth opened the first true haute couture house in Paris. 

Alexander McQueen

So, if we go deep to fashion history, we come to the understanding that fashion or clothing style is inseparable from humanity, being a part and parcel of art and cultural history that had been evolving together with mankind, obtaining new distinguishing features and shapes accordingly. 

So, why do we forget these traditions? Ancient and, to some degree, conservative Europe is still stuck with these norms in clothing and style, guiding fashion and keeping top positions in this industry. 

People and fashion complement each other, making a complete and unique look. Let’s keep in mind this vital component of an image that differentiates our personality from a crowd…

FLIRTING WITH THE PRESENT THROUGH STYLE BY V

 Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future. Fulton Oursler

While moving from the past to the future, we simply miss the most important point of intersection: the present. Working and running like crazy, we spend a lot of time and energy for the things that passed and for those, that haven’t come yet. These two dimensions totally absorb our nature leaving no space for the reality. Isn’t it better to enjoy the vibrant present that we can touch and feel? We never know if tomorrow will come and the past is never to be returned. So, why do we get back to these two thieves of our time and energy? Let bygones be bygones and simply enjoy the vibrant life with its awesome and unforgettable moments… Recently I came across a quote by Quevedo,  satirist and poet of Spain's Golden Age (1580-1645): “He, who spends time regretting the past, loses the present and risks the future”… I bet no one can dispute this so true saying. We move straight to the future without going its roots: the present time. We can easily change our future by restyling and giving a new makeover to our present. It’s amazing to watch how future can grow with a little inspiration in real life.

There is a group of people who keep complaining about life by doing nothing to improve it and make it of better quality. We all know that future starts with the past and the present. We are also aware that we can’t modify things in the past, but we have opportunities to shape the present in order to change the future. People can be easily divided into two groups: those who search for life drawbacks and those who seek for advantages and benefits, building their happiness and going fresh ways… 

I believe we should splash our present with lasting color of our energy and add new shades to get a winning look. Enjoying and admiring present moments is the most powerful accessory of the present life. Isn’t it amazing and fabulous to stop for a while and think how charming life is? This new approach inspires to living the most stylish, successful and fascinating life ever…

PERFECT PICTURES GIVING MIXED SIGNALS

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we're here we should dance.
Unknown

TV shows, fashion magazines, newspapers, and the Internet dazzle with perfect and gorgeous pictures of luxury life, but we don’t know, and many don’t care, about the reality behind the scenes.  We enjoy the glamorous images without going backstage.  If you have made up your mind to step on the fashion runway, you have to move forward gracefully and look ahead with confidence while managing an abusive and decadent reality. On the dance floor, you move with a bewitching smile on your face and grace the audience would die for. Being confident enough and too proud to expose your weakness, you show unruffled composure instead, giving mixed signals to your surroundings. It makes them treat you as a powerful and strong personality. Once I heard a wise saying from a passerby met by chance (I’m sure that was a blessing given to me to learn from): “You’ve got your security, if you are smart.”  If you have confidence and are smart enough not to expose your fear and weakness, you avoid getting washed away by a huge wave of jealousy.  

 I recently came across a quote by Robbert Oustin: “Life is like a hot bath. It feels good while you're in it, but the longer you stay in, the more wrinkled you get”.  And I want to add more: “The longer you stay, the more wrinkled your soul becomes”. Our body is an exact copy and reflection of our inner being. 

Your picture or your personality may give different signals to people, but you have to step up to take the challenge of always being above. It’s a long road which has no way back and everyone picks up his/her own path… My choice is a breathtaking, captivating, passionate and irreproachable dance without deception, jealousy and with a clear conscience.

PLANNED COINCIDENCE THROUGH STYLE BY V

Chance is perhaps the pseudonym of God when he does not wish to sign his work.
Anatole France

Do you believe in coincidence? I did before I started thinking seriously about my life and things happening to me. You may disagree with me, but I truly believe there is no place for coincidence, at least in my life, and later on I will tell you my story that is a strategic plan, thoroughly created by someone unknown to me. Have you ever thought why you meet people at this or that moment or place? Why couldn’t you meet earlier or later? Otherwise things would go the other way and perhaps the wrong one… Who knows, but I can tell you for sure everything happens for better, no matter what feelings you experience at the present moment. It’s like your deposit that will turn into a great profit soon. People happen at the moment when your mind is out of ideas or reaches a deadlock walking the streets of life labyrinth. We meet people at the moment of choice and they put our life together piece by piece the same way as we match puzzles creating a clear and amazing picture. Every person, every event or accident happens for a definite reason and keeps valuable information or, so to say, life guide that directs you and helps to find the right way to inner comfort. They say people and events rarely happen at the moment of our own choosing speaking about relations between men and women. It makes me feel upset and disappointed being a person who truly believes in love and perfect match forever. Then I got to the point that people come in our life for some reason building our character, making amendments to our mind, physical and mental structure of our being. Each of us has a portrait of his / her perfect partner, but have you ever thought that you are not ready to meet him / her being “as is”? It’s not the time to face your love / destiny, because you haven’t gone through transformation to match your ideal partner. Those people on your way shape you mentally and physically, creating a gorgeous and admiring sculpture that goes through some changes day by day, year by year… You notice you can’t be satisfied with the priorities and ideals you created years ago as they don’t meet your goals anymore. People meet somewhere at the point of intersection when both partners reach the same level and are ready to take an adventure to the world of love and real, true, reliable and passionate relations. It reminds me of virtual game: How Can People Meet If They Are On Different Levels? One should wait for another one and then move on, enjoying this wonderful and fabulous life together. The only saying I repeat day after day is “Give Time Time…” You should do the things you believe, even when they fall apart, and destiny will knock your door to take a seat next to you…

LIFE CONSTITUTION… DOES IT MATTER?

My principle is to do whatever is right, and leave the consequences to Him who has the disposal of them.
Thomas Jefferson

Can a person “rewrite” his or her life principles being grown up enough? That was an item I was trying to through the light upon, talking to my mom. She is a wise woman with a great life experience, whose point of view is very valuable and the most priceless for me. It was her who gave me an idea of my next item to cover and share my thoughts with you. I agree that it’s a very deep and philosophical question with no right answer, because it’s all about life constitution of every individual. No doubts, that every constitution can be amended or rewritten, but it can’t be totally changed. Every human being writes his or her own life rules and guides which violation is similar to committing a crime. There are articles that are never allowed to be broken or stepped over. But we also should keep in mind that these principles should be adjusted to the present time, location, mentality and be up-to-date to the situation. We create our provisions at the early age (maybe we are born with some of them) that are subject to change during the whole life along with our inner and outer transformation. It’s important to keep an eye open for life changes with a new and wise attitude to any situation. Set your goals, be open to new opportunities, live your best life, but never contradict your inner being. Find the courage to step away and let the situation go its own and right way. Any happy and pleasant moments, or sometimes someone’s unfair behavior towards us, form our life guide and our attitude to the surroundings, creating a list of must-have principles and the ones to be removed. But what I know for sure is that it is very important to stay on top and be above any misfortune or injustice. You should stay beautiful inside and out, keep your back straight when someone tries to bend you and learn to win at losing. You may establish your principles or not, but you ought to find the truth somewhere in the middle for creating a fair and a win-win situation for people surrounding you.

It took me two days to finish this article, because I felt something is missing… It’s not in fact about principles and it’s not necessarily to have them. The only thing you should bear in mind is that you need to be natural in any situation, be above fake feelings, feel the overwhelming bliss in record time, “exhale” love, take small, but steady steps towards happiness of people surrounding you and not to expect more. Life is a non-stop lesson that fills you with positive and negative experience that helps you to find the difference between fake and original things on your way to success.

Do you remember that I started my note with the statement that it’s a question with no right answer? Perhaps it’s somewhere in the middle of your choice and it’s up to you to find your life balance and inner happiness.