DOES YOUR STYLE HAVE A GAME?

Games lubricate the body and the mind.
Benjamin Franklin

Before rushing into writing my next article I decided to address the wikipedia.com and find the scientific definition for the word GAME. And look what I found: "A game is an activity among two or more independent decision-makers seeking to achieve their objectives in some limiting context." (Clark C. Abt). Don’t you think that we use the game elements in relations, carrier, communication with people, friendship? Why being married we are looking for lover or mistress? Isn’t it a kind of a game that requires more players, because we feel a bit oversaturated with the one we play and need to change the single-players game for the multiple one? It’s like attending sometimes spinning or yoga classes, but being addicted to gym. And if you do change your preferences, then it means you picked up the wrong game for yourself.

It’s out of the questions that game adds savor to your character and to the relations with your partner. It’s like specialty from the chef that is getting tasty and yummy when adding more spice…No spice, no piquancy… and who wants to eat an unflavored dish?

Our relations are a game where someone wins, someone loses or sometimes it ends in a draw. But nevertheless you can have the courage to lose gracefully, elegantly and nicely. It’s your experience, it’s your chance to practice more and more and be able to win the most important game of your life, the love of your life or the life of your love.

When I glanced over some of my paragraphs, I got impressed, because this small word has only four simple letters and such a substantial and profound meaning that explains the life behavior of all human beings. This term is being the foundation / basis for all human life with its diversity in culture, nation, religion, mentality, etc. The simple word that unites people from all over the world is the GAME…

Does your style have a game? Do you always play the same one? Is it chess, tennis or football???...

TO ENSNARE LOVE THROUGH STYLE BY V

If you love something, set it free; if it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was.
Richard Bach

Have you ever tried to ensnare love? I know you get mixed feelings about this question…But I did it and do you know what happened? The object of my admiration was slipping out of my hands like a fish when you have just pulled it out of the water, but it’s so slick that you can’t hold it. You will never catch the love by running after it. Being grown up, professional, serious and playing adult life, we still remain those sensitive kids who need that parental support, understanding and care. We need that someone special from our childhood fairytale.

But when it comes to love it is a complete mystery with no advice how to act or explanations of things happening. It is not a stylish tote or ultramodern shoes that you can buy once you see it at the shop window and can’t wait to own it. Being attractive, super sexy and selective, smart and wise enough you can’t understand what is wrong with you… You may look hot, stylish and fashionable, be intelligent, kind, helpful and do everything to please a person you die for, but it won’t work, because it’s not about you, trust me. Have you ever thought that the fish you are hopelessly trying to hold is not yours in fact and it slips out of your hands to another fisherman? Or maybe it’s not the time and it will come back to you once both of you are ready for the meeting… And the only thing you can do is to do nothing, just be yourself and enjoy your most beautiful and unbelievable life. And your fish or perhaps even a tastier one will reach your shore to ensnare you when you absolutely don’t expect anyone for dinner! Maybe being natural and cheerful is the right recipe for catching love…

It’s funny but this article took me less time to write than the previous ones. And it’s obvious, because the most extraordinary things are the simplest and it’s our mind that makes them complicated.

STYLE IS THE PEOPLE YOU DATE AND THE WAY YOU DO IT

Be polite to all, but intimate with few.
Thomas Jefferson

No doubts my next article is to be titled ‘Style Is The People You Date And The Way You Do It’. And of course there is an explanation for this, but I would like to skip these details and go straight to the items to be discussed.

It’s not new for us that our partners and spouses are the exact reflection of ourselves. The character traits we like or dislike about them are the ones that irritate and annoy us and we would prefer to make these changes in ourselves, but pretty often we try to do it through changes in our partners and it causes discord. Our relations are a huge mirror where we can see our own reflection, our own character traits with its positive and negative sides. Many readers may argue with me and say they are attracted by opposite interests…But they only seem to be different and only at first sight…In fact they do look alike! Of course we prefer some definite type of women | men that is surely the echo of our inner being. But I also happened to meet people who do not have any type; they just date absolutely opposite people. And I was always interested in the following questions: why does it happen? How can it be explained? I wondered why people change their partners like cute panties with rose ribbons or dirty socks for clean ones and how to keep the balance between politeness, intimateness and simple sexual instinct. I’m absolutely sure that a self-sustainable person knows who he is, he has his own style and own women | men type for dating without going from one extreme to another or, so to say, from one sexy body to another one. Is it a search of yourself or a method of self-affirmation? This is the ugly truth of our day-to-day life.

The quote by T. Jefferson I picked up from the thousands I found is the best one to throw the light upon the message of the article that explains the issues of style in relations. You just read one phrase and no more words needed… Two words joined by one coma are separated by huge chasm in meaning.

Well, we can keep talking and discussing these issues non-stop, but still YOUR own style is up to you…So how does it look like?

STRENGTH OR WEAKNESS…WHAT IS MORE POWERFUL MEANING?

It took me a couple of days to pick up the topic for my next article and even though my friend pushed me into writing more and more, I couldn’t figure out what subject I’m able to cover right now as your inner being should blend with the item you want to throw light upon. Finally a thought crossed my mind: why do weak people always survive and strong ones do not stand the pressure? It’s the same like the hurricane saves the young small trees bending them down to the earth and tears up by the roots of the strong ones, where their greatness of spirit doesn’t permit them to bow. Why does everyone think that a strong, splendid and gorgeous tree doesn’t need support, care and tenderness? Everyone considers it powerful and strong, amazing and fantastic that it doesn’t require any assistance to survive and look unique and vivid, reflecting unbelievable beauty. Who is in fact really strong: those strong creatures who wear a variety of masks and pretend to be weak or those strong ones who perhaps may feel weakness and loneliness? This is the reality not only of our modern life, this is the reality of all mankind historically established by centuries.
Everyone chooses his own way, his own lifestyle, his own course that doesn’t contradict his inner world. And this is your own style to be or not to be...

BE SEXY...BE HOT..

BE SEXY…BE HOT…

While sitting at the best Italian restaurant in Marin County with my friends, tasting perfect cuisine from the Chef and the best Chardonnay I’ve ever tried, I heard a phrase from one of them: ‘Oh, she always looks sexy!’…I don’t know whom they were talking about, but I thought “WOW!”. I guess every woman in the world no matter how old she is would like to hear the same about herself. This is what I call Style by V., where ‘V’ always means Victory, Viva, Vivid…It’s all about YOU and no matter if you are dressed sexy or not. It’s the way you move, look, turn your head, walk, step, write, eat, speak, think, close your eyes, breath, the way you keep a glass of wine, the way you choose a car and drive…I can list plenty of things, because each peculiarity, tiny or insignificant and subtle thing or gesture plays a huge role. It’s your win-win style – lifestyle - that is always a success. It’s like a chemical reaction that works perfect if you add the elements according to proportion. If you add more or less, this or that element, the result will be absolutely different and opposite to the one you expect: the explosion may happen or not…

I remember when I was studying at the University we were performing a play for Christmas Eve and I happened to have the worst dress. First I felt upset but then I tried to concentrate on my role and feelings inside of me. The play was a real success and after that a friend of mine came up to me and said: ‘Your dress is so gorgeous, you look unbelievably amazing in it!’. I want to underline it again and again it’s YOU who makes a success of your own look. It’s about tasting ‘yummy’ being natural and self sustainable the same as high quality vegetables do not need much sauce to have a fantastic flavor in the salad. It’s like dessert that doesn’t look pompous, but you can’t stop eating it, get addicted to it and want more and more…

Fashion. Style. Harmony.

What does it mean clothing and culture? How should people choose clothes not to look banal in the most expensive dress/suit and be gorgeous in the simplest one? These are the questions I wanted to cover for many years of my life, but being in a whirl of activities of everyday life, working in the sphere that has nothing to do with fashion and living in Kyiv – a big megalopolis and the capital of Ukraine – I left my dream on the most distant shelf of my subconscious suppressing my inwardness and my understanding of “Inner Me”. Look and style of every person is inseparably linked with inner feeling and who you are. After many years of working in megalopolis and due to my close friend I happened to be here in Northern California – a mecca of luxury, wealth and unbelievable beauty of nature. And If there is a heaven on the Earth, than it’s here in Marin County… It’s a perfect combination and harmonious coexistence of two different worlds: wildlife with its small inhabitants and our modern world with its fuss and endless progress. They look like two parallel worlds that do not bother each other and do not disturb the rest of its inhabitants. This State is completely different from the rest of US States I’ve been to. The difference is tangible in lifestyle, fashion, food culture, body cult…this list can be endless but I would like to stop on the style of clothing. This is the very place where I decided to do the thing I postponed for many years again and again being busy with everyday activities of my life. And this is the place where I want my dream to come true!

The style of Californians pleasantly surprised me with its ease, comfort, relax and unique beauty. You will never find here people dressed in the same way. It’s not about fashion just for fashion, it’s about the fashion that is within us and every new look is a self-expression of each of us. Fashion is an art to be natural, to highlight your own individuality and unique beauty and it’s very important not to overstep the verge of that perfect and ideal look. Our style, world understanding, state of mind, feelings, emotions and passion are expressed in our look. You can blindly follow the fashion and at the same time you don’t feel comfortable or natural in this or that look. It’s not about the clothes that make us attractive, charming and fascinating, it’s our hot and gorgeous body, impeccable skin, magnificent hair, mysterious character, stunning charm, charisma and uniqueness. All these character sketches and body peculiarities make our look amazing and unbelievable. The simplest and banal dress may look gorgeous on an interesting person with rich inner world and vice verse; the most expensive one may be ugly, because we make our own style and fall out of step not looking for new clothes, but trying to understand who we are in this sometimes even crazy world. Each of us is unique, but we all try to understand ourselves, find our own style and only after that we radiate happiness, inner harmony that helps us look 100%, highlighting the beauty and magnificence of our body, peculiarities and uniqueness of our soul, distinctive features and charisma of our character by delicate dress, perfume, accessories, etc. Style is what we are, it’s people that surround us, hobbies, etc.

There are no people that can be so to say ‘replaced’ as all of us are different and we should prove it in our ability to dress well and unique!

I believe that every modern person notwithstanding the age and sex ask these questions. I look forward to your comments and testimonials because each of us leaves a part of him/herself and no matter if it’s just a tiny part, but perhaps it helps somebody else understand who she/he is.

More soon…