SEARCHING FOR HAPPINESS WITH Style by V

Everyone chases after happiness, not noticing that happiness is right at their heels.

Bertolt Brecht

You wish to be happy, you do everything to be happy and you think that tomorrow it will be time for happiness. Is it a state of mind or just a lifestyle to be happy when chasing shadows of the future with a loneliness and disappointment at the end? Are you ready to pay for the goods you’ve never seen, spending years and years for the reality that exists only in your mind? Isn’t it easier to be here and now enjoying lifetime on the Earth?

Most of young people keep looking for the happiness all over the world and take trips overseas in search of something what they have at home. Something, that is waiting for them to become wise enough to forget their ambitions and to be able to accept it “as is” without an attempt to modify its essence. People often mix gifts with things received for granted, thereby missing their chance they are blessed with. They need time and huge life experience to distinguish real happiness between a number of fakes.

Once my friend told me prophetic words for me, and I still keep them in my mind: “Either you were into him, and he wasn't, or he was into you but you weren't at the time.” In most cases all of us  need time, because it’s much more difficult to keep the fire in the fireplace than to make it. And if someone did happen to find what he was looking for, he should cherish those feelings keeping vital energy whatever.

I wouldn’t write this note, but I would like to share my own experience of nearly missing my happiness. I didn’t notice that it was always at my heels, even when I was wearing flats…

TINY WORLD WITH Style by V

There is no such place as far away. Richard Bach

Kyiv, Moscow, Rome, San Francisco, New York, Amsterdam… there is no distance between cities when you are warmed up by the burst of energy of your family, and your true reliable friends. You may feel and enjoy the family warmth of Kyiv, tempo of Moscow, power of Rome, diversity of San Francisco, nightlife of New York, and ease of Amsterdam being somewhere on the French Riviera… These strong ties make you feel the host when you are just a guest.

Leaving a part of the sincere feelings in the next city we stop by, the rest of them we keep deep inside in the heart, cherishing the priceless memories we’ve been blessed to experience. And if someone tells me the distance may ruin the relationship or friendship, I’ll be the first one to protest and argue. I was the one to feel the presence and support of the family, and at the same time, to have the conversation with the friends never saying a word, and being overseas. The question is: “Does this person really want to be with you?” Those, who are not into you, are always in search of lame excuses for a perfect escape. Probably they help you by avoiding you, because “life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends we choose” (Tennessee Williams, American playwright). Life itself cleans up a friends’ list, making a wise choice instead of you.

Distance is the problem that has been settled in the heads of the majority creating problems for peaceful coexistence. For example, when an acrobat takes safety equipment during performance, it helps him to feel confident and secure enough despite the fact that he may not use it. Safety! This is his state of mind when he is supported by all that stuff. So, I guess it’s time to get rid of old stereotypes, and change our state of mind to the one named “There Is No Such Place As Far Away” that makes us closer to our families and friends.

P.S. Many thanks to all of my friends who accepted me the way I’m, leaving everlasting footprints that have made my path easier, safe and more comfortable to walk along.